I heard Tan Mom make this statement to her detractors on TV. I have heard these things said to me also in my past so my first inclination was to take it personally. But thank’s to “The Four Agreements” by Don Luis Miguel, I learned that this is about her, not me. She is angry. She has a right to be angry. The comedian Jimmy Kimmel said she looked like Wiley Coyote after the dynamite stick blew up in his face. I thought this was funny until I saw the photo below and felt that yet again a vulnerable woman, not a celebrity was being thrown to the wolves.
Before you hate this woman because of her ignorant statements, do what I did, don’t take it personally. She obviously was told that fat, ugly and pasty white were bad things to be. We have tapes that our “parents” give us about what is acceptable for girls and women to be considered pretty by society and if they don’t conform they will not get the glass slipper at the end of the fairy tale. In NJ where Tan Mom is from, being tan is a sign of attractiveness. The fact that she took tanning a tad too far shows that her reasoning skills are poor. She probably thought if tan is good, burned is better. Or, she doesn’t think she is too tan and is in danger of getting skin cancer. I am not jealous of Tan Mom. I am pale and even though I am part Latina and live in Hawaii, it never felt right for me to tan. I had a bad acne problem and preferred a pasty cover all makeup than a red glowing face. I once had a big pimple on my nose which prompted my mother and other “jealous” people to call me Rudolph the Red nosed Reindeer. I still had boyfriends because of my agreeable personality and shapely figure, yet, the words or tapes of my mother stayed with me. Perhaps Tan Mom from Nutley, New Jersey heard some of those comments and instead of hiding inside and fearing the world like I once did, she is up for a fight. I admire that in a way.
They’re jealous, they’re fat and they’re ugly,” the 44-year-old who looks decades older told TMZ, saying she’s the victim of a witch hunt and “there’s somebody out there my whole life who doesn’t like me.”
It is you Tan Mom who is your enemy. You have problems far greater than your appearance or even your legal woes. Get help for your anger . It’s not easy being the daughter of an angry person with low self-esteem. I know that for a fact. That was my life and the only way to cure it is to stop letting the distorted magic mirror take you to the land where tanning beds lead to Reality TV and the loss of your precious daughter. And to the press, who ridicule, I say, not everyone is fair game.